They can be a blessing or a curse! It's day eight of 12 Days of Enough.
Today we're tackling that awful feeling of not being smart enough to mix and mingle at a holiday party. Maybe it's your spouse's company party. Maybe it's an event at your kid's school. Whatever it is, you may worried you won't have enough clever and interesting things to say. You don't feel smart enough.
Here's my Lifestyle Advice: I hate to say it, but this is all in your head!
You’re plenty smart. What I mean is that I don’t care what your IQ is. We’ve all met plenty of Brainiacs who made us want to stab our eyes out in 30 seconds! That’s not who you are or who you want to be.
Mixing and mingling at a party isn’t about how smart you are. It’s your passion, authenticity and an interesting story or two. You know a lot. You’ve done a lot.
Make a list of hobbies you have or issues you follow. Places you’ve traveled or want to travel to, interesting people you’ve interacted with through the years, funny things that happened to you, even embarrassing moments that you learned from.
It's your bag of party tricks! If you’re really nervous, have a few stories in mind that you could talk about. What makes a person interesting and fun to mingle with is their willingness to be authentic.
Think about it, how many times have you stayed in a conversation longer than you intended because the person was so into what they were talking about, you couldn’t tear yourself away? Passion and authenticity are very charismatic and appealing. This isn’t Jeopardy, it’s a party. Leave your self-doubt at home.
I have one more recommendation: do the Own Your Brilliance Meditation before you go. That will calm your nerves and get you centered. Wear something that will boost your self-confidence.
You are brilliant. You are unique. No one can offer this party what you can. The most fascinating thing about you….is you! Knock-em’ dead at the party, my friend!
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