Relationships

You Deserve a "Yes!"

 

Summer is nearing its end. 

Did you do the things you wanted to? 

Or are you like most of us, looking back, thinking, “where the hell did summer go?” 

It’s the perfect time to re-group. 

To grab your “yes!” for the summer!

What do you want? What are you longing for? 

·     Sleep

·     Self-care

·     Self-love 

·     To start a project, you’ve been putting off

·     To deal with a relationship or issue that just won’t go away!

This is where I come in. 

That’s my super-power. 

Helping clients find their truth (not mine, not societies, not their spouses, or mother’s) and take action that gives them the, “Yes!” they’ve been longing for. 

What sort of “Yes!” can you expect when you work with me? Good question. 

Here are some examples.

MY CLIENTS HAVE:

  • Learned how to stop putting everyone else’s needs ahead of their own so they can finally take care of themselves and pursue their own passions

  • Stopped the cycle of shame and pursued an entrepreneurial dream

  • Activated confidence, emotionally and sexually, to begin dating, after a relationship ended badly

  • Found the blocks that led to overwhelm, and the clarity needed to change their business offerings

  • Found the confidence needed to leave a marriage that wasn’t in alignment anymore

  • Ended the pattern of getting into romantic relationships that didn’t support them

  • Released professional blocks and limiting beliefs that kept her professional performance and income limited which increased her income and status in her company

  • Gained the confidence to pursue new employment opportunities after being fired

  • Let go of past traumas to pursue the lifestyle, relationships and careers they never felt worthy of

Here’s what one of my recent clients told me after her final session: “I really do feel like a shiny new person Brenda. Thanks be to you always. You have changed my life forever.”

Now, I’d call that a “Yes!”  

Come get yours. 

I’ve got a few spots open for one-on-one clients right now. 

I’d love to talk to you and see if I can help you and if so, how. 

Say, “Yes!” to a 15-minute Discovery Call and we’ll figure it out. Click here to check out my coaching page and schedule your Discovery Call today. 

When does, "no," really mean, "yes?"

I’ve had a lot of clients recently who are working to get clarity on saying, yes or no to something.

  • Do I say, yes or no, to the job offer?

  • Do I say, yes or no, to leaving my relationship?

  • Do I say, yes or no, to dating? Or a particular person I’m dating?

  • Do I say, yes or no, to taking a vacation with my best friend and leave my family at home?

  • Do I say, yes or no, to starting or expanding my business?

  • Do I say, yes or no, to leaving my hometown behind and moving to the beach?

What are you wanting to say, yes, or no to?

Every time we say, no, to something, we are saying, yes, to something else.

We can’t say yes, all the time. Even when things sound interesting or fun because when we say, yes to that, we are probably saying, no, to something else. And it’s also true, and I doooo sooooo love this… that when I say, no, to something, or someone, I am saying, YES! To something, or someone else.

I’ve had the same question on my mind. I have lovely business clients. I freakin love helping solo-entrepreneurs manage and grow their businesses! That’s an easy, yes! I have one-on-one clients working on their relationships, careers, and how to expand into the life they’ve been dreaming of. Again, easy, "Yes!"

I also have two collaborative projects I’m working on that thrill me! It’s too soon to tell you about them, but imagine getting three or four of your favorite people together and creating something that will positively make the world a better place? Pretty damn exciting!!

So, what do I say no to? I have a certain amount of creative and business energy. I won’t sacrifice self-care and relationships for “work.” I used to do that and the one thing I know is that it’s not sustainable.

I have to do what I coach clients to do. I have to figure out what to say no to, so I have the time, space and energy for the things I want to say, yes, to!

Here goes! I won’t be taking any one-on-one clients after July 1, 2019. If you’ve been thinking about working with me in that profoundly productive environment of 1:1 coaching, now is the time to say, YES!

You can get a six-session package for $850 (or two payments of $435) – this is most client’s favorite because with six sessions they experience a lot of break-throughs; or… a three-session package that is $495 (or two payments of $255.)

If you want to book a 15-minute Discovery Call to decide which is best for you, we can do that, we just need to do it before July 1st. 

Hit reply and let me know:

1.     Yes! I want six sessions!

2.     Yes! I want three sessions!

3.     Yes! I want a Discovery Call!

Can three hours change your life?

Three hours really can change your life!

Three hours. Radical change. Do you want it?

Stop for a moment and think about one thing, that if you experienced radical change in that area, would significantly improve your life. What is yours?

Is it:

  • Your business

  • Your job

  • A relationship

  • Your sex life - of lack of it

  • Your body

  • Your finances

  • Issues with your kids

  • An project you can't seem to start - or finish

Take the three hour test.

What if you devoted three hours of your time, not even three in a row? Three hours, over one or two months, and you experienced radical change, would it be worth it to you?

And what if that cost you $1,000, would you do it? Three hours. $1,000. Radical change.

If your answer is no, then I recommend you stop telling yourself that the issue is important. If the change you want isn't worth three hours of your time and a little bit of money (go back to your bank statement and look at everything you spend money on that isn't food, gas, and bills. You'll find a lot more than $1,000 that you could divert, for a month or two, to your radical change.)

If your answer is yes...

You passed the three hour test and you're in the right place.

Now, I'm going to invite you to create radical change in three hours. How will you do it? It's simple.

You show up for three, one hour, one-on-one sessions with me.

My clients experience radical change all the time. In three sessions they transform their businesses, their lives, their finances, their relationships, their sex life, whatever the issue is that they bring to the coaching session, my clients experiences change. It's freakishly effective!

Sound too good to be true?

Let me share a few stories from some of my current clients.

- One client was working towards self-confidence in her business. As an entrepreneur, you know that your level of confidence effects every aspect of your business. By the time we finished our session she had several significant insights that increased her self-confidence.

- One client, in her 70's, was wanting to turn up the heat in her sex life with her husband. I love coaching women into transformation in their sex lives. Most of us have tons of baggage, if not trauma, that impacts our sex lives, significantly. Coaching this client to feel and find the power of her sexual energy, was a joy for me and her. I'm sure her hubby was pretty happy too!

- A couple other clients are wanting to start a business or grow their business. They needed practical advice for financing, planning, strategy and marketing for their business. But, that's never everything an entrepreneur needs. Mindset is where it all starts or stops. You can have the best strategy in the world, but if your mindset is negative, you feel unworthy, you lack confidence, you don't think you're smart enough or went to the 'right' school or have a college degree, your mindset will silently sabotage every strategy you put into place. I worked with these clients to free their limiting mindset and get some great strategies in place.

Are you willing to devote three hours to your own radical change?

The cool thing is that when you're ready, change is ready. It's been waiting for you.

Here's all you need to do. 

  1. Book a 15 minute call with me. In 15 minutes you and I will both know if we are a good match and if I can help you with your specific issue. If I can't help you, I'll do my best to refer you to someone who can. Use this link to book the call. It's free and there's no obligation. This is where your radical change begins.

  2. Plan on spending three hours, that's one session, for one hour, over the next four to eight weeks. We'll have our sessions by phone so you don't need to travel or do anything other than be available and present during our call. You'll also want to bring an attitude of change with you. Be open and willing to radically change.

  3. You won't need to spend $1,000 for this radical change. You'll invest $495 for three sessions. Radical change is worth thousands of dollars, practically, emotionally and energetically. An investment of $495 makes it an easy, yes.

I can't wait to talk to you on our 15 minute call. There is nothing that thrills me more than coaching a person to their personal radical change!

Ever feel not lovable enough?

I know exactly how this feels.

I’ve been divorced twice and single for 17 years. I can, and have, gone deep into the rabbit hole of not feeling lovable enough.

Valentine’s Day is approaching. This is one of two holidays (New Year’s Eve being the other) that puts a magnifying glass on the issue of being part of a couple or being single.

When I drop into that rabbit hole of feeling not loveable, I can give you plenty of evidence to support that thought. It’s a thought that leads to a terrible feeling of emptiness and unworthiness. Not a fun feeling.

Just say no.

Say no to the thought. Let’s face it, there are other thoughts you say no to, probably all the time. Especially if you’re trying to start a new habit or stop an old one. You have the thought, I should go to the gym today. Then you say to yourself, no. I’ll do that tomorrow. Or, you tell yourself you shouldn’t eat that piece of cake, you are on a diet, and you say, no. No to the diet.

Why not take the same approach with the thought that you aren’t loveable (desirable, clever, cute or any other reason you tell yourself for being single)? Just say no. No. I am loveable. I am desirable. I am clever. I am cute. I am….

Then grab a supportive friend, or invite some people over, or get online and do a video conferencing party with some cool people that don’t live near you. (Zoom is a great free service for video conferencing. They don’t care if you do it for fun instead of business!)

Break the habit of telling yourself you are not loveable enough. The only way to break a habit is to start doing things differently. Trust me, that thought, and the others that stress you out, are just habits. They can be replaced by something more fun.

Give yourself the Valentine’s gift of something much more fun! You are lovable. You are desirable, you are clever and cute and everything you need to be. You are exactly who you need to be. You are a gift. A Valentine’s gift to yourself and the world.

What do we do When Life Sucks?

Yes, that's today's question. What do we do when life sucks?

None of us are immune to difficult times. It may be a stressful time at work, in your business, in your relationship or with family, whatever the difficulty is, we all have times where it feels like life sucks. So what do we do about that?

Allow, allow, allow

What if, instead of judging ourselves or criticizing life, others, our spouse, our boss, politics, whatever it is we want to blame for why life sucks...we allowed ourselves to feel what we feel? How would that work?

In today's video I'll explore the power of allowing your feelings without resistance and give you some tips for how to practice the art of allowing. It may sound passive...but it's not! It's incredibly empowering!