The square peg - round hole trap

I am a master at this!

And, I fucking hate it!

I get an idea. It’s usually when I’m stressed. I know… that should be my first sign…

And I think, “Sure. I can do that. I can make that work.”

You see I pride myself on being a survivor. One of those women who can “figure it out,” no matter what challenge comes up.

And I do. And, sometimes it’s been amazing.

And sometimes I’m just shoving my fucking square peg into a round hole, smiling and pretending all the while that I can really do this. If I just hang in there a little longer. If I try a little harder.

Then I wake up one day (that’s what it’s like for me. A sudden flash of total clarity.) and I’m like, “fuck! I know what’s wrong! I’m shoving my square peg into a round hole and I hate the way that feels!”

Then, I get myself out of whatever I’ve gotten myself into.

It might be a romantic relationship, or even a marriage. It might be a job, a place I live or something I volunteer for.

Here’s what I know for sure, no matter what the price, getting my square peg out of a round hole ALWAYS makes my life better. It’s a personal win.

And magically, a door open, usually almost immediately, that gives me an opportunity to use my energy and talents in a way that is right for me. A square peg in a square hole, so-to-speak.

Can you relate? What are you doing in your life, right now, that feels like a square peg in a round hole. I’d love to hear about it. We all do it.

The trick is, getting ourselves out of it and noticing faster when we do it the next time. That’s called unapologetic evolution. I will never apologize for stepping into the next best version of myself! And neither should you!

It's Christmas Day! Feeling like you're not prepared enough?

It’s Christmas day. The 12th day of our 12 Days of Enough.

Maybe you were up into the wee hours of the morning wrapping presents. Maybe you don’t have all the food prep done for the day that you hoped for.

Here’s my Lifestyle Advice for this not enough thought: Toss it in the trash.

It’s Christmas. What ever is done, is done, and what isn’t done may not get done-- and that’s okay.

Do you know why it’s okay? Because it’s the truth. 

The truth, even an inconvenient one, is less stressful than all the thoughts about how it should be another way.

Give yourself the best Christmas present ever.

Be enough. You’ve done enough. If that means there aren’t rolls with dinner or you eat a little later or go out for Chinese food, who really cares?

Celebrate the season. Celebrate love. Celebrate you, because you are enough already!

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