A member of my private FB Group, Live Lavishly: Turning up Your Power from the Boardroom to the Bedroom (click here and answer two questions if you want to join this powerful, loving group of badass women!) is at a crossroads and was asking for support in the group recently.
Hers is a familiar story. Corporate job is being eliminated, kids are grown, so she has some freedom there. But, what to do? Too young to retire, and not sure what to do next.
How do you navigate a crossroad?
Do you go left? Or right? Sit still? What’s the answer?
These are the questions that life coaches thrive off of! Are we demented? Reveling in a client’s discomfort and lack of clarity?
No. It’s just that I’ve been down this road with clients often. Hell, I’ve been down this road myself! Here’s what I know for sure: before breakthrough, there is chaos. Before new life, there is the death of something it’s time to let go of.
Here’s a few tips on letting go.
It sounds so easy and in fact, is pretty hard! Here’s what I’ve learned. When I’m unhappy with something in my present life, I can find all sorts of things that I’m unhappy about in the past.
Think about it. If you had just won the lottery and were sitting on a beach with your favorite beverage in your hand, would you care about that co-worker who takes advantage of you at times, or the fight you had with your sister-in-law last month? Probably not.
These are the things to let go of. Give yourself a few minutes to be pissed or sad or whatever the emotion is, then tell yourself, “this isn’t meaningful enough to take my energy. I’m laying it down.” See yourself literally laying it on the ground and walking away from it.
After you’ve won the lottery and are soaking up the sun and enjoying a drink on your private island… fi you do still care about what the co-worker did, or the sister-in-law did, that’s okay. That’s a sign that something needs to be taken care of. You need to talk to the co-worker or sister-in-law. When we hang onto things, it’s because our inner wisdom is saying, “hey, wait a minute! I don’t like that, and I want you to do something about it!” When we ignore that voice and pretend it doesn’t matter, or think we can’t do anything about it, or think talking to them won’t help, we disempower ourselves. Worse, we’re telling ourselves that we don’t matter.
These are the things we can’t ignore and must address. You may need to get some help, from your friendly neighborhood coach, or a trusted adviser or friend. You don’t need help from anyone who fuels your anger, without a healthy resolution, or who confirms you don’t have the power to do anything about it. Never trust the advice of someone encouraging you to be a victim! (A free coaching tip from me.)
We all have issues with relationships, personal and professional ones. That’s why I created the, Say Yes! Masterclass. You can sign-up right now…right here. It’s going to be on Tuesday, August 14, at 7:00 PM Eastern/4:00 PM Pacific.
A very cool group of women are gathering to focus on how to:
- live from their truth in relationships
- communicate clearly and set appropriate boundaries
- focus on their own dreams and let go of control
- get rid of the drama and attract the relationships that will encourage them to be their best-self
Please join us and you’ll be better prepared to let go of what is no longer serving you at your next crossroads! Sign-up here.