I have so many clients tell me they know what they should do.
They just can’t seem to do it.
We’ve all been there.
You know you’re putting everyone first - at the expense of yourself.
You know the best way to serve your family and others is to do it from a “full cup.” The old, “put your oxygen mask on first, then help the person next to you,” theory.
But you still find yourself saying yes and doing more than you should. Or feeling guilty if you don’t.
Why is it so damn hard, especially when we know better?
Let’s use our closet as a metaphor.
The same clothes. Day after day. They are nice. But you realize, you’ve “outgrown” some of them, in one way or another.
Your style has changed, your body has changed. There are pieces in your wardrobe that just aren’t appealing anymore. Of course, some of them are fine. Some are favorites. But there are always a few that really need to go.
You know you need to clean out the closet; discard some things, possibly have an item or two altered, and buy a few new pieces.
And yet, you keep wearing them. You’re busy. You rationalize that they aren’t that bad. You shouldn’t be greedy, maybe you don’t need to buy anything? Who are you to spend the money on alterations! Just wear what you have and be grateful.
And there you have it. Life.
Life in a closet.
When it comes to people and situations in our lives, it’s the same.
There’s a relationship with a friend, co-worker, boss, business partner, lover, spouse, your mother… and you know it needs change. It needs altering. Or a good cleaning out, maybe even discarding, in order for you to thrive.
You know it. You tell yourself, “next time we talk…” and yet it doesn’t happen.
Why is that?
We know better, but we don’t always do better.
Because being the way you’ve been has been deeply engrained. It’s a serious habit!
And habits don’t start or stop easily.
That’s why coaching is so important.
You need an advocate.
Someone to help you communicate differently.
Break the habit of feeling and doing for others first and yourself… not first.
These are the dragons I slay all day every day, so, you’re in good hands!
There are several ways you can let me help you put yourself first! And NOT in a selfish way!
1. Join my FREE Private Facebook Group, Liberate Your People Pleaser! We talk about how to break those habits that our people pleaser got stuck in! Click here to join.
2. Join the “Freedom is Calling You” FREE Facebook Challenge coming in August! For now, join Liberate Your People and you’ll get all the deets there.
3. Work with me 1:1. It’s the most powerful way to break those people pleasing habits. To explore a 1:1 experience with me, book a 15-Minute call and we’ll figure it out! Book your call HERE.
I can’t wait to connect with you!
