Do You Know Your Personal Truth?

Do you know your unique, personal truth? 

It's a question that goes deeper than it appears, especially when we consider how cultural messages and familial programming shape our identity. 

Many of us, whether we mean to or not, navigate life based on a script we didn't write, adhering to roles and behaviors that have been imposed upon us from an early age. 

This conditioning can be so ingrained that we mistake these learned responses and beliefs for our own, believing them to be our personal truth.

But let's consider the story of a client who thought she hated confrontation. It was her personal truth. Through our sessions, she uncovered that this belief stemmed from her childhood conditioning to avoid upsetting anyone and to always assume it was her fault in any conflict. 

Initially, her aversion to confrontation and her guilt in conflicts felt like her genuine self. However, as we delved deeper, she realized these were conditioned behaviors, not her true feelings, let alone her personal truth!

Her journey exemplifies the transformative process of coaching with me. By questioning her long-held belief and exploring the roots of her behavior, she discovered her actual truth, leading to a fulfilling and empowering conversation with her husband. 

This is not just about improving a single aspect of life; it's about unveiling the layers that obscure our genuine nature and potential.

Understanding and embracing your unique truth is a profound and liberating experience. It allows you to live authentically, making decisions that align with your inner values and desires rather than conforming to external expectations. This alignment leads to a sense of empowerment and fulfillment, as you begin to live a life that is genuinely yours, resonating with your core being.

Wherever you are on your journey of discovering your personal truth, I’m here to be a guide.

I’d love to chat with you about it. Book a FREE 15-minute call HERE and let’s discover if now is the right time and if I’m the right coach to guide you on your journey to truth. 

In Truth,

Brenda

From Burnout to Balance: How to Overcome Exhaustion and Thrive

Do you ever feel like your life is out of control? That you're constantly running from one thing to the next, with no time to breathe or relax? Burnout and exhaustion are all too familiar for many of us, but there is hope. You can find balance and thrive, even in the midst of life's chaos.

But what does balance really mean? For some, it might mean having a stable work-life balance, while for others, it could mean finding more time for self-care or relaxation. Whatever it means for you, I'm here to assure you that it's possible.

Imagine waking up each morning feeling energized and excited for the day ahead. Picture yourself doing work that you love and spending time with people who lift you up. That's what thriving looks like, and it's something that we all deserve.

I've worked with many clients who have felt helpless and stuck in their lives. One of my clients felt like she couldn't truly live her life until her parents passed away. But through coaching, she realized that she had the power to create the life she wanted, and that she didn't have to wait for anyone else's permission.

It's time for you to step into your power, too. Start by exploring what brings you delight in life. How much time do you spend doing things that truly light you up? My free guide has tips for discovering what you really want out of life, and you can get it HERE.

If you're ready to take things to the next level and start thriving, book a 15-minute connection call with me. I've got three spots open right now for new clients, and one of them could be yours. Let's work together to create a life of balance, delight, and fulfillment. Book your call HERE.

This Blew My Client’s Mind!

In today’s “All Time Favorite Episode” of Uncover and Elevate you’ll hear the story about a recent session where the client was totally blown away! 

We were working with a “problem” she was having at home. Her inner critic was working overtime to keep her feeling diminished and like a failure. 

One of the special things about one-on-one coaching is using my intuition to decide which tool will help a client the most in that moment. 

I nailed it because she was totally blown away and had a HUGE breakthrough! And that’s what I love about the work I do! 

Listen to today’s episode HERE. 

I’d love to hear from you. Were you able to see how you can apply the same tool in your life? 

Do you have any questions about the tool? 

Are you interested in being a guest on Uncover and Elevate so we can uncover and elevate an issue in your life? I've got a simple form for you to fill out HERE. I’ll reach out after you’ve completed the form.

10 Tips for a Life of Delight

Are you craving a little delight in your life?

I recently created a free guide with my 10 Tips for Delight & Desire and you can get it right here!

We all need a little inspiration for rediscovering delight and desire! It’s so easy to slip away from the demands of life. 

What I’ve discovered over the last few years is that when I look for what delights me and explore  my desires, I end up coming back into my truth. Into my authentic self-expression! 

Our delights and desires are part of our unique ‘fingerprint’ in the world so they are key to finding and expressing our authentic nature. 

Not the version of ourselves we became in order to fit in, or keep the peace or feel safe and loved. Those are conditioned versions of ourselves that can feel authentic, but that’s just because we’re so familiar with them! Your authentic self is confident, doesn’t take things personally and knows that you are the prize! You are the gift! You are THE ONE! 

If you’re struggling to feel confident, to know that you are the prize, I’m the coach for you! Please take a step towards your authentic self by booking a 15-minute Connection Call and let’s explore whether now is the right time for you to work with me! There’s no obligation. It’s well worth checking out. Book your call HERE.

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What do you believe that isn’t true?

We all have beliefs that aren’t true. 

“Being fearful about money keeps me from being frivolous and careless with money.”

“I’m not good enough.”

“Taking risks is unsafe.” 

“Love hurts.”

Each of these is untrue yet many of us believe them. Without question. 

We all hold beliefs deep in our subconscious that are not true. 

Those untrue beliefs limit us and cause us pain and suffering.

Then why do we hold onto them?  

First off, we might not know the belief is there. 

If it’s something passed onto us from our family, religion or culture most of us take on the belief because everyone around us believes it. We might not even believe it consciously, but because we grew up around it, we have a deep, subconscious belief that is in opposition to our conscious belief. 

Which is why it’s so valuable to have a coach who can work through the conscious and subconscious aspects of your beliefs. A coach who can help you release the untrue beliefs and claim the conscious beliefs that serves you. 

I have clients with untrue beliefs about romantic relationships. Those beliefs keep them trapped in emotionally abusive relationships or in relationships that keep them from expressing their authentic self. 

In coaching they learn how to release the untrue belief and begin to claim their right to healthy, authentic relationships.

I have clients who have untrue beliefs about money. Beliefs that money is hard to make, that it’s easy to lose, that people want to cheat you, the government wants to take it all, they aren’t worthy of money, good with money… There are a lot of untrue beliefs about money! 

In coaching they learn how to release those beliefs and claim what is true, abundance is all around us. You are worthy of the wealth you desire. You are worthy of the abundance you desire. Abundance is your natural state. 

What untrue beliefs do you have? 

Are you curious about how coaching can help you release those and replace them with beliefs that are true and support your authentic self-expression? 

That’s what I’m here for. It’s my calling and my mission. 

Let’s chat. Book your FREE, no obligation, 15 Minute Connection Call today and let’s find out if coaching is right for you and if I am the right coach. You’ll be glad you did. Book your call HERE.

What is your heart telling you to do?

“Do what your heart tells you to do because you don’t owe anyone your life. Not even me.” The Mother in The Fabelman’s. 

When I heard that line in the movie, The Fabelman’, it stopped me cold. 

Truth. 

You don’t owe anyone your life. 

We are each called to live the life that our heart tells us to live. 

The problem is, most of us are taught at a young age NOT to listen to our heart. We are taught to conform. To do things and make choices that will win us the love and approval of our family and our culture.

“Save me from the desire for love and approval.” Byron Katie.

That’s one of my favorite quotes! 

It is our desire to be loved and approved of by others that takes us away from our truth. We sacrifice our truth, what the heart tells us to do, in order to please someone else. 

2023 is the year of honoring my heart, my truth. 

What about you? 

Can you see where you’ve given up pieces of your heart and your truth to please someone else or to get their love and approval? 

Most of us have. 

The time has come to claim what is yours. Your heart. Your truth. 

There’s nothing more sacred. 

I’m here to help you. You don’t need to do it alone. 

Let’s chat and see if now is the right time for you and if I am the right coach for you. Book a FREE 15-Minute Connection HERE.

When was the last time you had fun?

I noticed last week, I haven’t been having enough fun! 

There have been good “reasons” for it. Maybe you’ve got “good reasons” too. Here are mine:.

• I’ve had the shingles for over two months so my body is NOT  feeling 100%. They are almost healed, but my energy is low along with my motivation.

• My mom is 89 and has suddenly started declining… quickly! So, that’s been a mental/emotional challenge as well as helping my sister figure out what we need to do for her care. 

• There’s been drama with my adult kids and their lives. Some of it good, a relative getting engaged… so sweet, my son running an Ultra Trail Run (37 miles! Good grief!)! Some of it not so good! A remodel job gone wrong, a roof leak in the middle of the night, a trip to the ER in the middle of the night, injuries to a wrist and calf… 

Basically, life. 

It’s easy to stop having fun when too much life happens. 

Here’s my promise to you, now that I see it, I’m going to change it. 

That’s what I help clients do, so right now, I’m practicing what I preach. 

I took a boat trip with my son, daughter-in-law and the newly engaged love birds on Friday! It was soooo fun! I love being on a boat out on the water! And to do it with my family is extra special. 

I scheduled a pedicure and I’m making sure I get to the beach several times a week. And, I ordered some water color paints because I really want to start painting!

I’ll be posting more fun stuff on IG because I realized, since I wasn’t having much fun, my IG feed looks very “businessy” as if all I do is coach! 

Time to reacquaint myself, and you, with ALL of who I am, including the fun parts!!! 

What can you do for fun today, or this week? 

Tell me about it! Post it on IG and tag me! Let’s be on a mission to add more fun to our lives!! 

What do you think is under there?

What’s hiding under your hood? 

I love the metaphor of looking under the hood! It’s a great way to describe what I do as a coach. 

A client tells me what they are experiencing that makes them uncomfortable, anxious, angry or stressed. The way you tell your mechanic that you hear a funny noise in your car. 

Then we look under the hood to see what’s actually going on. 

If all we focused on was the “funny noise” I might have you turn your music up, or wear ear plugs when you drive so you don’t hear it. 

That’s ridiculous! At least we know it is when we’re dealing with our car. 

But we do that sort of thing all the time with “funny noises” in our lives. Instead of getting the mechanic (me, in this case) to look under the hood and figure out what’s really going on so we can address the real issue, we binge Netfilx or have another glass of wine, or decide if we were more disciplined we’d be fine. 

Nope. That’s not it. That’s why those things don’t work in the long-run. Sure, like turning up the music, it might drown out the funny noise for a while, but… nothing is happening to address the issue. 

Believe me, once we find the issue and start to heal it, the “funny noise” will go away or we’ll make a minor adjustment to stop it. But without healing the cause, nothing we do will last. 

That’s why I love what I do! Clients come to me with their “funny noise” and we look under the hood, heal the cause and get them humming down the road without any funny noises! 

I created a free worksheet to take you through one of the processes I use to look under the hood with clients. You can download it HERE. 

The worksheet is simple and powerful! 

If you have any questions or you're interested in exploring working with me, book a 15-Minute Connection Call. Your timing is perfect. I have a couple of openings right now, so don’t wait. That “funny noise” isn’t going to go away by itself. 😄

This Blew My Client’s Mind!

In today’s episode of Uncover and Elevate you’ll hear the story about a recent session where the client was totally blown away! 

We were working with a “problem” she was having at home. Her inner critic was working overtime to keep her feeling diminished and like a failure. 

One of the special things about one-on-one coaching is using my intuition to decide which tool will help a client the most in that moment. 

I nailed it because she was totally blown away and had a HUGE breakthrough! And that’s what I love about the work I do! 

Listen to today’s episode HERE. 

I’d love to hear from you. Were you able to see how you can apply the same tool in your life? 

Do you have any questions about the tool? 

Are you interested in being a guest on Uncover and Elevate so we can uncover and elevate an issue in your life? I've got a simple form for you to fill out HERE. I’ll reach out after you’ve completed the form. 

Have you been part of an evolution?

Today is the first episode of the evolution of Liberate Your People Pleaser to Uncover and Elevate! 

I'm thrilled to bring you this episode and the lessons I've learned as a coach and in my own life that have motivated me to make the change. 

After coaching hundreds of clients It is clear to me that true transformation happens when we go to the deeper levels of our lives. 

Clients come to coaching to solve problems. Whether that’s toxic relationships, learning to set boundaries or ending a habit that isn’t serving them. 

I’ve learned that I need to uncover what is beneath those problems. To discover what is causing them. 

Then I can give the client tools to elevate their life. That elevation and transformation touches every aspect of their life, not just the part they came to coaching for. 

Today the podcast takes a similar evolution to take you on a journey into the deeper levels of life and how to uncover and elevate so that you experience true freedom! 

Listen to today’s episode HERE. 

Please share this episode on social and tag me! 

Then I’d love for you to post a 5 Start Review wherever you get your podcasts. It makes such a big difference and will help others find the show. I’ll be incredibly grateful! 

I can’t wait to hear what you think about the new name and new episode!! 

Why Hally Decided to Work with Me

Hally was lacking in confidence. 

She knew it was affecting her at work and at home with her daughters and husband. 

No one else understood it. Hally is smart, attractive and very good at many things. People would tell her, “You should feel confident!”  She wanted to feel confident. 

But she didn’t know how. 

That’s when she reached out to me and we started working together. She learned some practical tools to build her confidence. 

More importantly, she learned that it was her inner-critic who was the cause of her lack of confidence. Once we uncovered that we started working to heal her inner-critic. 

You can hear Hally talk about her coaching journey on a recent episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser HERE. 

That’s how coaching works. We start with a symptom like a lack of confidence and we deal with that, but we go deeper to find what’s causing it so we can heal that. 

Now Hally can experience true liberation in every area of her life! 

If any of that sounds interesting to you, book a 15-Minute Connection Call with me HERE and let’s get you going on your journey of liberation! 

How do you do it?

Clients always ask me, “How do I do it? I understand I’m being a people pleaser, but how do I stop?”

In today’s episode of Liberate Your People Pleaser I’m going to share one of my most useful tools in answering the question, How do I do it? Plus I’ll share:

- Why awareness isn’t enough. 

- Why there’s a gap between knowing where we are and where we want to be?

- What to do if you don’t know where you want to be, you just know you don’t like where you are! 

And much more.. Listen to today’s episode HERE

If you like Today’s Episode, please don’t hesitate to post a 5-Stars review if you’re listening to the Podcast on Apple iTunes or Spotify and leave us a review telling us how our podcast helped you in a specific aspect of your life. It makes me so happy to see listeners' feedback because it motivates me to create content that is impactful for you and other listeners.

Did you know this was possible?

I’ve got a luxury retreat starting on Thursday this week so I’m prepping, planning, buying flower and getting swag bags together. 

My intention is for each woman to have her own personal moment of transformation! 

Are you ready for YOUR transformation? 

Never underestimate the ripple effect of a transformation. 

I’ve had transformations in my love life that rippled into a transformation professionally. 

A transformation in how you parent, might create a transformation in your relationship with your BFF. 

Because we are whole beings. 

We often think of ourselves in terms of roles and different compartments we engage with. 

But we are whole beings. Whole.

That means crisis in one area of life ripples into others, and so does healing and transformation. 

If you’re ready for the ripple effect of healing and transformation in your life, book a 15 Minute Connection Call with me right HERE and let’s explore how coaching can change your life!

Are You Over It?!

“I am over it! I’m so tired of helping everyone solve their problems and picking up the slack for them!” My client was pissed and I knew exactly how he felt. 

That’s what people pleasers do. We solve other people problems and pick up the slack for them. 

That’s why we get so exhausted. 

That’s why we’re so burned out. 

I’ve learned that people pleasing is a symptom of a deeper issue. There is something in all of us that “causes” people pleasing. 

While it’s important that I help my client learn how to set boundaries in her work and personal relationships so that she can end the cycle of exhaustion, if we don’t address what’s causing her people pleasing habits, we’re just putting a bandaid on a broken leg. 

So, what do we do? 

How do we get to the cause instead of just dealing with the symptom? 

This is where 1:1 coaching is so powerful! 

The cause of your people pleasing habits is unique to you. There’s probably more than one. 

It’s hard to get to the cause of something by ourselves because we’re so distracted by the symptom. 

And rightly so. Just because it’s a symptom doesn’t mean it’s not a huge deal! 

But dealing with symptoms only gets us so far. 

That’s why I take my clients on an inner journey that identifies cause so we can create lasting transformation. 

Sure, I also give client’s practical tools to handle those symptoms. 

Healing the cause is where true liberation lies! 

I want you to experience lasting transformation! Book a 15-Minute Discovery Call HERE and we’ll create your liberation! 

Mental vs. Physical Pain

Do you ever wonder if your mental pain is also causing physical pain? 

If so, is it too late to do anything about it? 

It’s never too late! 

Today on Liberate Your People Pleaser  I’ll share the story of my oldest client. She’s 89 years old and is brave enough to look at her life through a new lens and is learning how to stop causing herself mental and physical pain! 

I know you’ll be inspired!

Listen to today’s episode HERE.

What if Love Really Heals Every Wound?

I had the honor and joy of marrying my son and his fiance this weekend. (Photos on IG soon!)

I thought about love a lot. 

My journey of love. 

Romantic love. 

Self-love. 

The love of family. 

The love of friends. 

I’ve experienced so much healing in my life because of love. 

While others were at times a part of that and I healed through their love…

The truth is, it has been the journey of loving myself that my deepest healing has occurred. 

That’s why I love coaching so much. 

You could say, what I do is coach clients into healing themselves by loving themselves. 

Do you want it? Do you want that deeply healing experience of loving yourself into life? 

For just two more days, June 30, I’m offering a crazy affordable “Love Heals” coaching package. Three, one-hour sessions for $300! Consider it my love offering to you and your journey. 

Whatever needs healing. Whatever you want. It is possible for you… through the power of love. 

Get your Love Heals package HERE.